ohitsmaaii:

What are the verdicts from someone in love? Im not talking about the expectations, the obligations; but the things people want to do because they are in love. I cant tell if my expectations are being played out by society but here’s what i feel.

When someone loves you, you shouldnt have to tell them to be with you; they should want to be with you willingly. You shouldnt have to ask them this and that, they should want to do it for you willingly. You should be happy and not this on and off junk. I had a lot in mind, but i’ve now lost it all.

we should probably cut the act. Confusion is not a part of love is it? Love is said to be one pleasure and a thousand sufferings. I wish i could pull myself out because the pleasure really isnt worth it sometimes; but i keep giving myself excuses. And your manipulations is an addition. I cant seem to tell if im forcing myself to believe that im really just in love with the thought of being in love. Because we all like having that sense of security and being cared for even though it’s only at temporary moments at a time. Find someone who makes you want to be a better person.

What are some of your guys’ thoughts on love? How do you know you’re really in love or if you’re just in love with the thought of being in love? How can you tell the difference between being in love or just enjoying that person’s company? 

This. A lot of people will go through this phase where they don’t even know what love is. I’ve been there. Stayed there because I felt like I knew nothing about love and what love was. Especially after break-ups. All you know is that person. You took yourself out of the real world and made a world where all you knew was him/her. And with that, you cut yourself off from reality. 

Love isn’t something you just toss around. Throwing ‘I love you’s at every person you are in a relationship with. Have I been in love before? I thought I was. I was blinded by a stupid guy who never really cared. Sure, we had our fun and our fights but he never once fought for me. Like, he just gave up and that was it. We were done. Love is such a loaded word. 4 letters, l o v e. LOADED. And right now, I’m IN love and I am loving. I love and love and get more love back too. 

What love means to me, when someone will still love you at your very worst and stick with you at your best as well. Accepts you for who you are, regardless of the religion, ethnic background and mentality. Loves you for you, and nothing else. It doesn’t have to be a sexual kind of love. The kind of love that also comes from family and friends. Love is what YOU think it is. No one should tell you other wise. 

Love isn’t about who loves who more, it’s about who loves who and still loves who when they fuck up. Even if you get mad. Love is forgiveness. Love is willing to say I’m Sorry, even if it wasn’t your fault. Love is about holding someone in their time of need. Love is about telling the truth, regardless if it hurts. Love is about the smiles, the hurt, and all that shit in between. No one really knows until you have that funny little feeling when all you think about is just making that person happy and never letting them down. And even if you do, you hope that they’ll still love you too. 

Find someone worth you. All of you. Your will to fight, and your will to be weak. Your tears and kisses. Your fears and misses. Someone worth your heart in its entirety. Someone who’s genuine with a genuine heart. Someone you will love regardless, rich or poor. Someone who will just cuddle with you when you’re feeling sick, lonely or sad. Someone you can open up to and not have to worry about being judged. Someone worth your kind of love. 

you brought that upon yourself. 

it’s hard not to care what people think, everyone is always being judged on what they are doing, who they hang out with, how one reacts to something/someone, how a person looks, but I think it’s time to look past all the bullshit and judge a person on WHO they are as a person and not what they wear/listen to or what you hear about them.

That is a really long sentence, but that doesn’t make me stupid. (:

to tell someone who they are or what they should be? in this world no one gets by without being tormented and hated. no matter how low anyone “thinks” they make me feel, i’m just on top of the world, not giving one fuck.

like, is it out of pure hate, or pure jealousy? either way, you must be doing something great that they hate it/jealous of it.

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Especially in relationships. I get that, I’ve been there, and I feel your pain. I was young, in love, and I made someone my world and he left. I don’t like when girls act like they care, but they really don’t and move on, or act like their relationship with this guy (that is hurtin’ because you played him like a fiddle and/or lost interest) didn’t even happen. Like, OWN UP TO YOUR SHIT. He was NOT the only one in that relationship. You need TWO people to make it work. And goes this is vice versa.

I’ve been there, I said this before, I’ve never really broken up with anyone. Just one person who I clearly didn’t deserve and I wasn’t ready for that. I mean, I was in like with this person, I truly was, but what it was, just couldn’t be YET. And I did lose my chance BUT I was happy either way.

Sometimes, it’s just not what it is. It’s not what you want it to be, and you have to accept that, regardless if you feel like this person is “THE ONE”. It’s gonna hurt, it is, but it’s up to you to bounce back from that. Happiness is there if you want it to be, and if you choose to be sad, then that person still has ALL the power, but it’s up to you to take back what’s yours. Revenge is sweet when you look at it with a smile and show them how much better off you are without them.

So for all you people hurtin, stop. Give yourself time to heal, don’t keep pushing yourself on this person (they clearly don’t see how great you are), do you, find someone who DESERVES you. You got this. Take your power back. You can do it!